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3 Steps To Thrive In Family & Career, Without Sacrificing Either

12/13/2021

 
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They say, "You can't have it all."

I don't know who 'they' are and everyone's definition of 'all' is different.

But the reality is, no matter what age, stage and wage you're at, thriving in your family and career doesn't just happen. We need to work. Although the effort and toil of work has been increased ever since sin entered the world, work itself can be honorable, and with God's help, it can be a blessing for your family and the world around you. Like anything else in life, we need to go about family & career with all our heart and do it as unto the Lord.

Here are three pillars that I've identified over the years that I use to safeguard against compromise and stress. 

1) Define Success
Just getting by is a terrible state to be in. In life. In work. In faith. In anything.

To thrive, I first need to define ‘success’. What am I aiming for? At the end of this year, what will I have done in family and career to say that it was a successful year?

Companies use this method all the time, typically in the form of key performances indicators (KPI's). Here are just a few of my personal 'KPI's' when it comes to defining success. I encourage you to come up with your own, this way it adds an element of accountability.


  • My wife is flourishing (emotionally, spiritually, physically, etc.)
  • I am investing time with my children, daily
  • I am not living in debt
  • I am able to give to others of my resources and time
  • I meet with God every day
  • I'm never 'busy'
  • My (public) reputation has not surpassed by (hidden) character
  • My joy is rooted in God, not in things or circumstances

​2) Filter Everything Through Eternity
​Ask yourself: Will the impact of what I'm doing now matter in eternity?

It's something I often ask myself when faced with a financial decision, a matter at work, something related to family or simple actions that I take on a daily basis.

Keep the end in mind.

Will it really matter, when all is said and done (i.e. you're no longer here), that you drove your family around in a reliable 2012 vehicle rather than a flashy, new sports car? No, it won't. (Plus, your family probably can't even fit in that sports car, so why are you trying so hard.)

Will it matter, when all is said and done, that you spent your evenings and weekends preoccupied with work rather than family? Yes, yes it will.
 
The list continues. Do some soul searching and use a filter to keep you from doing things that will negatively impact you and help you do the things that will be beneficial in multiple areas of your life, for years to come.

3) Write It Down
I use The Covenant Planner sheet to record our family mission statement, key reminders for the year, key goals and target dates and more. You should try it!

This gives me a quick snapshot of what matters and as I review it, usually bi-weekly, it helps me make decisions and guides me back to my non-negotiables.

*A Harvard Business Study found out the following related to goal-setting:

  • Eighty-three percent of respondents had no goals.
  • Fourteen percent of respondents had plans but had not written them down. The study found that this group was ten times more likely to succeed than those without any goals.
  • Three percent of respondents had written down their goals. They were three times more likely to succeed than the group who had some plan in mind.

What this research made clear is that if you want the best possible results, you need to define your goals and then write them down.

The same is true when it comes to success in family and career.

Now, the last and most important point (and possibly a prequel to a future post) that I could iterate is this:

If you lose at home, you lose. 

No amount of success in the workplace will compensate for failure in the family. Everything comes back to the definition of success. You CAN win/succeed at both but you need to define what it looks like.

If you have some tips of your own for thriving in family and career, send them to [email protected].

Danny

(*Source: www.newtechnorthwest.com)

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